1. How do milongas work?
- Music is played in sets of 3 to 4 songs; these groupings are called tandas.
- There are 3 types of music played at a milonga. Tango is the “regular” music you’ll hear most of the time. Vals (sometimes called vals tango or vals cruzado) has a 3/4 waltz rhythm but with tango instruments. Milonga is a faster and more rhythmic music.
- Between each tanda is a cortina, a snippet of non-tango music that tells everyone that the tanda is over. This is the time to sit down or invite someone else for the next tanda. It’s also fine to ask someone to dance after the tanda has started.
- It’s expected that you will at least dance a tanda to the end with your partner. Stopping in the middle of a tanda (“breaking tanda”) generally means that something has gone very wrong.
- Some people elect to dance multiple tandas with a partner, if they really enjoy dancing with that partner.
- Dancers usually use cabeceo ask each other to dance, but this isn’t always the case (see #3).
2. What exactly is cabeceo?
It is the way to invite someone to dance. The request is done by making sustained eye contact with the dancer of your choice. The dancer accepts the invitation by slightly nodding. If he or she refuses the invitation for any reason, eye contact will be broken by their looking away.
It is important to use cabeceo (between leaders, in this case) to come onto the dance floor when the tanda has started. It’s the same as drivers using their signals and looking first before turning onto a main street. Followers can help with this process as well by not jumping into the line of dance without looking and helping their leader make eye contact with other leaders.
3. Is the cabeceo used in Ottawa?
Cabeceo is not used all the time in Ottawa. Our community is small enough that many people know each other and verbally ask each other to dance. However, experienced dancers who are familiar with cabeceo often use it, even with friends. It’s a fun skill to have!
4. Do I have to dance with everyone who asks me? Or, do I have to make sure to ask everyone to dance?
Anyone can politely refuse a dance for any reason; you’re tired, or want to chat with others, or watch the other dancers in action.
And you do not need to explain yourself to anyone. You should only dance when or if you really want to.
5. What are some big no-no’s at the milonga?
- Teaching or otherwise criticizing your partner at a milonga is heavily frowned upon, whether it’s during a tanda or off the dance floor. Many dancers will decline to dance with you again if you attempt to teach them during a milonga.
- Ignoring floor craft will get you a lot of dirty looks. Argentine Tango is danced counterclockwise around the dance floor, and often couples form lanes so that the dance floor keeps flowing. Switching lanes constantly, “tailgating,” holding up traffic, and stepping backwards against the line of dance are all unsafe for your partner and the other couples around you.
6. How do you dress for milongas?
Many people choose to dress nicely for milongas and make an evening of it. You’ll also see people in jeans and casual clothing at milongas. At gala-type events you’ll see an occasional suit and gorgeous tango dresses, but these aren’t mandatory at all.
The important thing is personal hygiene. Argentine Tango is danced closely, so body odor and bad breath are to be avoided. Siempre Tango advocates a scent-free environment as well because excessive perfumes and colognes can be unpleasant.